I’m silent who would believe a child that has been violated by either of the following; My grandpapa; Father, my mother’s husband, mother’s boyfriend, Uncle, brother, Teacher, Pastor or trusted adult? I don’t know who to trust, they won’t believe me…….But it happened and it happened in my bedroom at home. They think it only happened in your house but it was in my House!!! None Lost Movement believes that CHILDREN ARE THE HIDDEN VICTIMS….LET’S GIVE THEM A VOICE!! Written by Shawn Saxton, Vice President of None Lost Movement
Question, do you think your a victim or a survivor ? For years, I was calling myself a victim. But 27 years later, I was introduced to the word SURVIVOR. If you think about it, a victim is someone who is going through some sort of trauma. A survivor is someone who has survived their trauma. The more I thought about the two words, I began promising myself, “I’m no longer a victim or a survivor”!!!!! Instead, I am a WARRIOR. Why? Because let’s stop and think – if I am able to talk about my story of abuse and pain, then it’s makes me a WARRIOR. Now, can you say to yourself, “I am NOT a victim or a survivor. Instead I am a WARRIOR”? None Lost Movement believes in letting those we come in contact with know – if your trauma didn’t kill you, you are a WARRIOR. If your breathing and alive today, you are a WARRIOR! The challenge we ask of YOU, yes YOU – is to stand in front of the mirror and point to your self and say “I AM A WARRIOR. MY PAST HAS NO CONTROL OVER ME”. And be sure to say it loud and proud. Blessings from the NLM Team, Nicole Marchman Shawn Saxton Shan Bruce
Did you know your VOICE has power in it? Can you think of a time when you couldn’t exercise the power of your VOICE? I do! I remember when I was a little girl and I was told repeatably, DO NOT TELL ANYONE! I was not to tell anyone I was abused physically or sexually. I couldn’t tell anyone I was rapped. If I was to tell you the truth – I believed the statement and would not tell anyone I was abused. So I didn’t for a long time. But now, I have found my VOICE and believe in using my VOICE to help others to find their VOICE. We at None Lost Movement encourage you to tell someone when you are hurt! You have a VOICE and you never know, your VOICE may be able to help save someone’s life. Blessings from the NLM Team (Nicole Marchman, Shawn Saxton and Shan Bruce)
None Lost Movement believes in providing a platform for survivors of domestic violence and childhood trauma. We want to thank Shannon Turner for her courage to share her story : ” I grew up in a dysfunctional family, so I didn’t recognize what dysfunction was. I married the man I loved even though others tried to point out warning signs. His behavior continued to change for the worse, but I didn’t want to see it. Until one night, he held me hostage (raped me) all night by knifepoint in our bedroom, while our children slept in the next room. I was terrified, and confused. I didn’t know what to do or why this was happening. I actually got dressed for work the next day the whole time feeling numb.The next day, a co-worker referred me to The Haven of RCS. It took a lot of courage to pick up the phone and admit what was going on. I called the hotline, and spoke with one of the advocates. She truly listened to me, told me I was not alone and taught me about safety planning. She told me it could get better, and she helped me find the courage to change my situation. A few days later I made our safe plan to leave.. I went to The Haven of RCS safe house with my then 2, 4, and 6 year old children. And the police arrested my husband on felony charges. Suddenly I was a displaced single mom with small kids in communal living. Over and over again, we learned that no matter what you’re going through, it will get better. I don’t know what I would have done without that support and encouragement. It was, after all, during the height of the recession, and I was a single mom, but I also found out then that I had thyroid cancer. It took 4years to finally beat Thyroid Cancer and 6 months after being pronounced cancer free I would find out I had Kidney Cancer. Life as a single mom with cancer was hard but God is bigger. Since then, I’ve married the most amazing man, my kids are doing great. I’m an author and speaker, President/Founder of Unashamed Ministries, Inc.,and I’m cancer-free for about 5years. And now I want to help others find themselves… I have a responsibility to tell you and others that “whatever you’re going through, you have to go through it, and – it will get better.” – Shannon Turner Do you have a story you would like to inspire others with? It’s important for us to share our story. It will let others know ” I’m not alone”. And that’s the vision of None Lost Movement – no one suffers pain alone! Please email your story to firstname.lastname@example.org.
When looking at this photo, what do you see? I see a person holding themselves in a protective method. Or one may say they are hurting. That’s the beauty of photos. Each viewer can look at a photo and come up with a variety of what the photo means. I would like to come to you with the very word expressed on the photo – SHAME. You see, so many individuals walk around with shame. Shame of a mistake they made. Shame with choices they’ve made. Shame for being raped. Shame for being unable to care for their child. So many different examples. What have you been ashamed about ? For me, it was for repeating the cycle of domestic violence after telling my mother I wouldn’t be her – marry an abuser. But I did! However, now in my 30’s, I can honestly say I was wrong. Thank goodness for people who believed in me. I was able to BREAK THE CYCLE! So ashamed ? NO MORE! We at None Lost Movement challenges you to unfold your arms from your head and say – ASHAMED NO MORE! Blessings, NLM Team (Nicole Marchman, Shawn Saxton & Shan Bruce)
Have you ever looked for love “All in The Wrong Places?” I will be honest. I have. Why? Because I was taught to love myself, I MUST be in a relationship. But lets stop and think about this. Why must we be in a relationship, in order to love ourselves? When I think about this question, I think – if I cannot even love myself, how will I be able to pick a healthy relationship? If you stop and look in the mirror and can say with belief – “I love myself”, then your in good shape. Now, the next self evaluation is – “Do I love myself enough, to not allow NO ONE to call me out of my name ? Do I love myself enough to not let anyone control me? Do I love myself enough, not to let anyone change me to benefit them?”. These are all critical questions we must ask ourselves. And daily. P.S. – If you don’t walk away with anything from this post, please walk away with this – “You are AMAZING, no matter what your past says”. Blessings, NLM Team (Nicole Marchman, Shawn Saxton & Shan Carter-Bruce)